Hello beautiful souls, I am Manisha. I am a Nutritionist and a fitness enthusiast. An astrologer by interest. I am passionate about food, nutrition, fitness , mental health of people. I am easy to talk to and always ready to help people. I am not a relationship expert, no one is of course ! But today let me dive into the topic of ‘LoVe’ !
We all fall in love at least twice or thrice. Yes, that’s true, twice or thrice ! I am not going to declare statements saying that love happens only once. Let me debunk and tell you why. But yes, there are some relationships that happen only once in a lifetime, they are different, kind of fifth dimensional and spiritual (whispers- Twin flames ). Few people will definitely get me. LOL, let’s not discuss that here! It takes guts to write this topic of love because every one has got a different view on love and it’s completely okay if you cannot appreciate this article of mine.
The first thing I want to bluntly say is that people should stop weighing love. You cannot balance things in love. There is nothing perfect about love. There is no hard and fast rule about love. The only rule in love is to go with the flow and do not weigh the pros and cons of being with a person. Do not weigh their background, do not weigh their economic status, their skin colour shouldn’t matter, do not assume and take partners who can spend for you or help you in someway in life. Love independently, out of your passion and choice. No partner must be assumed as a Need, partnerships must be the outcomes of wants/desires and not needs. Desire to be with a person irrespective of their flaws and status, desire to laugh with them, spend time with them, travel with them, have kids with them is how one must mean to love.
Love at first sight? yes it happens for no reason or for reasons unknown. the first sight is when you don’t know the person yet, you don’t know their background, their flaws, their economic status. But yet it happens. But this doesn’t mean you can fall in love with whoever girl/boy enters the classroom/office! Right? And the moment you dive deep, within months you only find flaws in the partner and the challenges that arise in the relationship scares the hell out of both the parties.
There’s nothing wrong in having challenges in a relationship. And there’s nothing wrong in not choosing a relationship that has challenges and flaws. It all depends on what is the priority, the partner or mental peace. Sometimes it is hard to have mental peace in relationships but that becomes easy when you are with a person who makes you happy and smiley. When the partner doesn’t bring you progress and only makes it harder for you to live, even a small challenge looks scary and bigger. Basically, your relationship must heal both of you and not harm you. Let me stop lecturing here.
There are some people who are stuck with their past, who are unable to get through their past baggage, unable to forget and forgive. Unable to let go! Why is it unable for these people to let go off their past? Why do we develop trust issues? Why do we fall back and not let ourselves have a new beginning with someone else?
The trauma from the past haunts the individual and he/ she is unable to let it go.
The individual develops trust issues and starts doubting every one and everything around them after undergoing a break up especially.
Depression hits back very badly and the individual forgets the world is huge and not every time we learn the same lesson.
Always take time to heal from the past and not blame your partner or tag ‘love’ as a bad emotion.
Always target on self healing and learning from the bad experiences.
Always forget and forgive the past. If it is severely traumatic, consider a therapy .
Start loving yourself instead of criticising your decisions. Always remember no decision is wrong or right, it’s all about human evolution and learning.
Gone is gone, and it’s never too late for anything to start fresh. There’s nothing wrong in finding love again if one wants a company for lifetime.
Push aside your egos and stop blaming your ex partners, if it didn’t work out, it just didn’t work out, simple! Let them go, let them find progress. Do not seek revenge on them. Just let go!
It is more important for you to make yourself happy with the resources you have. Never let anybody influence your thoughts.
The above are some simple rules of love , either you are in love with yourself or in love with a partner. Also, it is more important to not let the society decide What is right for you. The society also consists of people just like you, everybody has to go through challenges. No one can ever tell you what you are supposed to do, especially in critical matters of relationships. Your gut says it all!
Always remember, if you are ready for the challenges in your relationship because your partner is the priority in your life, just go and take up the challenge. Nothing can break you down when you fight hard enough for something you are passionate about sincerely. These challenges are temporary. These challenges can be taken when both parties are sincere and do not want to let go the relationship. (That means they are happy with each other’s flaws too). Then the challenges are worth it! I think I don’t have to remind you that you cannot love someone weighing their caste, religion, status. This theory of mine is way different because many people (especially Indians) might not accept. But that’s the truth dude! You cannot find love like a business deal. Always gravitate towards progressive nature. People want to try continental cuisines, wear western clothes. But we only want to find love in our caste/religion? This scares the shit out of me ! Narrowing down options in love is just like not letting yourself accept your flaws and grow.
I hope I made sense in the article. Probably someone needs this at this time. Hope the readers get the best out of the article and take it positively!
I am pretty sure, this article would have confused most of the readers LoL! But if there is anyone who got through this article, you are progressing dude! Have a happy weekend!
Author
Manisha Bhavana
Nutritionist and Mental health coach
Founder- NUtreboot(Food&Fitness)
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